Day 2 – 10 Likes and Dislikes
Before I continue with this I wonder if it is 10 in total or 10 of each? I’ve decided 10 in total or I’ll be here til a week next Sunday typing out my justification for my likes and dislikes. Also, what type of likes and dislikes does the idea include? Is it covering people, food, drink, rules, behaviours, fashion, politics, etc – the list could pretty much be infinite couldn’t it? I’m going to try and write those things which won’t start a huge debate, or argument, although all subjects will never be agreed upon by everyone, thus the term subjective – each to their own. I respect an individual’s right to believe in whatever they wish so if you wish to comment at all in the negative to my likes and dislikes I’ll simply agree to disagree…
10 LIKES (Stuff, Foods, Behaviours, Politics)
1) I like having the world at my fingertips.
Back in the day (I sound like I’m old!) when I needed to know about something; research it for homework for school, or just to find out more about a subject I used to have to go to the library – school or city/county library. I’d then have to go through drawers of index cards to find the reference number for that subject and then go to the shelves to find the book/s with the information I needed. Now, I am, and everyone else is, able to look up things almost instantly. The oracle that is Google (other search engines are available) finds so many results for subjects, no matter how vague or random, in seconds and I’m able to discover what I want to learn about a subject or learn how to do anything by reading how to, or going to YouTube to watch a ‘How-to’ video. It’s perhaps the one thing which is positive about the world wide web.
2) I like LOVE. I love LOVE. I love it in its simplest form – the love for your family as you’re growing up. The love you feel for your parents, brothers and sisters, which despite annoying behaviour, lack of contact or any other circumstance is strong within you. I love the love I feel for my hubby and for my son. My love for my hubby is stronger than ever as we approach our silver anniversary. The love we have is unique and special, especially in this day and age where so many people divorce. Yes there have been testing times, frustrations, periods of doubt, but we’ve come through it all and we’re still here. That love is to be celebrated, and we will on the big party day, but we also celebrate it ourselves every day in the sharing of the smallest touch or look, the kisses and the constant affirmations throughout the day. It’s in our text messages and in our calls. It’s in the links to pages we think the other will like on Facebook, or to websites which we know the other will love and it’s in special moments like one which happened the other week. I was streaming via Spotify and the first dance song from our wedding started to play. We just happened to be standing talking to each other but just stepped closer and danced to the song. All the memories from our wedding day encircled us and it was one of those moments that are so random but so sweet that you tuck it away in your heart and mind to keep it alive for eternity. It’s also in the joint love for our son who is a part of both of us and that shows in him physically but also in his personality. He can say something and it’ll be hubby 20 years earlier. It’ll be a certain look which is the same look I would give in a certain situation. It’s in his beautiful laugh and in the most wonderful hug I get when I am seeing him for the first time in months. It’s the joy I feel when I see him love, when I see him laugh, but it’s also when my heart feels for him when he’s having a bad time of things and I just want to reach through the phone and hold him tight. Love. I know it’s also in the many friendships I have, both physical relationships and online/virtual friendships. I have some beautiful online friends with amazing souls and hearts and who every day love through challenging circumstances in their own lives to offer support from hundreds or thousands of miles away. That’s another good thing the world wide web has created.
3) I like food! I’ve recently been following an eating plan and lost 21lbs/9.5kgs. I still have a way to go to reach the target weight I set for myself, and have struggled the last few weeks to stick to it, thus the scales not moving very far – hen nights and weddings aren’t great for people attempting to lose weight. I can see a difference and so can others, which is a great confidence booster for me and I hope to get the remaining 28-35lb off in the next few months. I like to cook and bake. It’s part of liking food but cooking and baking are enjoyable activities. I learnt how to cook in my mid-teens due to my parents divorcing. I lived with my Dad and younger sisters so needed to feed us all. I had some awful disasters but everyone survived. I love to experiment with flavours and have shelves of herbs, spices and other ingredients. My hubby doesn’t eat much outside of traditional British staples so sometimes when I want to experiment I have to consider if he’ll accuse me of trying to poison him! Thankfully he will eat some Thai, Mexican and Italian food which he wouldn’t have even tried 25 years ago, and despite his lack of love for fruit and veg he will now eat Leeks (al dente only – I slice them into flat squares, put them on a plate, put the microwave on and a few seconds later turn it off again – basically I show the leeks the microwave or vice versa!), beansprouts, watercress, rocket and mushrooms. All other salads and vegetables, except for onions and potatoes are off the menu for him, as are pasta, rice, or other grains. As for baking I bought Mary Berry’s Ultimate Cake book back in the noughties and made my way through it. We now have a few family and friends favourites. When Great British Bake Off started I was so excited. Despite everyone saying I should apply I’ve not done so. I just don’t think my baking is good enough and I’m not sure I want to be on TV.
4) I like diversity. I lived in Cambridge for most of my life. The population there is extremely diverse, despite the official demographics reports – which, due to Cambridge University do not always correctly reflect this – for instance the 2001 census, taken during a University term found that 89% of residents were white, versus the national average of 92%. Meanwhile, 84% of University undergraduates identify as white. In 2009, the ethnicity of the city was reported as 73.5% white British, 8.4% British Asian, 7.1% other white, 3.1% black British, 1.1% white Irish, 2.4% two or more races, and 4.3% Chinese or other ethnicity – this information from Cambridge Demographics at World Population Review. Growing up my parents, despite having 4 children of their own, welcomed students from all over the world in to our home, acting as host family for the many language schools in the city. I didn’t think anything of it and just accepted these people. I can still remember how to count to 10 in Arabic and also remember most of the students we had and from where they came. Once I was married and settled we did the same, exposing our son to different cultures too. I wanted him to know and understand that we’re all human beings, with feelings, despite our skin colour. I now live in a semi-rural area with an extremely low ethnic dynamic, which is a shame, however this is likely to change in the coming years as people continue to move further out of the built-up, cramped cities looking for cheaper properties and a slower pace of life.
5) I like animals. Actually I love animals! I’ve always had pets. We had dogs briefly when I was a child, and had cats throughout my childhood. As an adult I wanted to be a dog owner, and shortly after hubby and I had moved in together we got our first dog. We now have our 4th and 5th dogs, which are both Romanian rescue dogs via the charity Paws2Rescue We also have 2 cats – a Mum and son. We lost her other son at the end of 2017 aged 12. I bawled my eyes out as they just burrow their way into my heart so deeply! I also love to learn about animals – how they behave, communicate, etc and when I went to Uni as a mature undergraduate student back in 2004 I read quite widely on animal communication/use of language and found it fascinating.
1) I dislike discrimination in any shape or form. I believe that all creatures on this planet should share equally its land and resources. It’s one planet and it’s the home of billions of people. People who bleed the same colour blood, and animals too. I don’t care about skin colour – each person had no choice over that and what does it matter anyway? Why should we treat someone unfairly because their skin differs from ours? I’m White. In the Summertime I go outside and sit in the sun with the hope that a little bit of a tan will enhance the way I look. That’s a 1980s thing! But my skin changes from white to rosy-pink, and then goes Brown. Brown I said. The same colour that many people are persecuted for having. Hypocritical behaviour at its worst for anyone else who is happy to sit out in the sun for the same reason. Religion is another reason for discrimination. Why?! We are all free to believe what we want to believe. My Universe, my light is known to others as God, Allah, Jehovah, etc. It’s the same thing. This is a controversial subject and not one I wish to argue about. I just want people to understand that personally I don’t care if you worship any or all of the Gods, deities, or your own personal God. That’s up to you and as long as you respect me for not attending a church or mosque through personal choice I’ll respect your choice to attend your church or mosque, or similar.
2) To lighten the page after the one I above I have a simple dislike. Marmite! I’m sorry to those who love it but I just hate it! Yuk! The smell gives me goosebumps and sends shivers down my spine! I’m also odd in that I LOVE Twiglets – those wheat sticks which are covered in, yes, Marmite! I also love Marmite flavour crisps, but get a jar within feet of me and bleurgh! Sorry Marmite lovers, sorry! 🙂
3) I dislike cruelty in any form. I dislike persecution, killing and beating, of people, of animals. I don’t understand how a person with the same DNA qualities as myself could act so maliciously to maim/disable or kill another living being. As a carnivore that may sound hypocritical but I believe that as a species we are carnivores and our bodies were designed to eat both meat and vegetables. I try to buy my meat from reputable suppliers, preferably organic, where the animals have lived a good life with access to clean water, good quality food and freedom to roam. I know there’ll be a number of vegetarians or vegans who will strongly disagree with me and I’m sorry but we’ll have to agree to disagree.
4) I dislike pain. I suffer from pain daily, constantly. It’s now a part of my life. It’s never going away, and I wish desperately that the pain would ease for just the shortest of time so I could not feel it anymore, but I know that isn’t going to happen, despite the many medications I take. I have friends and family who are going through similar things and it’d be wonderful if pain could be wiped from those feelings we have as a part of us.
5) I dislike trolls. I hate that these people sit at their pc or on their phone with the sole purpose of putting others down for their beliefs or to make a nasty comment when someone is grieving, or has a sick child, for instance. I wonder why they don’t have anything with more value to do with their days. I wonder how they would feel if they were in the same situation as the person who is suffering and has to endure further suffering via the evil words of these individuals. It makes me wish desperately for Karma.
6) My final dislike – as so much time has passed since I sat down to write this blog article – is that I dislike Donald Trump. I’m in the UK and I sit and witness the things he says and does and it fills me with trepidation and fear. I feel any progress made whilst President Obama was in office is being completely erased and that the U.S is taking steps back centuries in its values and ethos. I fear the implications this has for the rest of the planet. With that I’m going to leave it there. I could go on for a while but I’m choosing not to.
So, I hope this has been an interesting exercise. It’s so difficult to think about and narrow down those things you like and dislike and there probably could be 10 of each or more but I have other things to do…maybe a part 2 next month!